"The hardest of all is learning to be a well of affection, and not a fountain; to show them we love them not when we feel like it, but when they do."
Ok, so you've been dedicated to enhancing yourself and now have a nice piece of equipment that most men would envy. But now what? Are you are in a relationship that seems to be status quo? How do you ignite that fire of passion?? While we ladies do love a man with a generous package, it is not the only factor in determining whether or not we consider a man a great lover. Some simple, yet important actions should accompany any sexual activity with that special someone in your life.
We all know that the basis for sexual excitement begins in the brain... visual fantasies of pleasure can often be cultivated with a few unspoken words (yes, in the form of romantic-infused actions). Women have needs that often go beyond the art of lovemaking. I'm not talking flowers and chocolate (too cliche)... I'm talking about taking a genuine interest in her. Most of us girls (I'm speaking presumptuously for the often confusing female species) aren't interested in a lot of bells and whistles, just to know that we are loved and cared for by YOU! Something as effortless as a phone call during the day to say "hi... how's your day going?" does wonders later on! Send a text message to her cell phone when you know she's on her way home and tell her to drive safely... tell her how precious she is to you! A nice cup of tea in the morning, served in bed, speaks volumes. Music, for most humans, is an aphrodisiac. Yeah, I know, EMO is not for you, but she probably digs it... why not dive into the lyrics and maybe find something that will touch her heart!
Of course, everyone's needs are different, but for the most part, if you are in-tune to her and a good listener to boot, you should be able to pick up her often not-so-subtle clues. Women are naturally more expressive then men, however, we tend to be a bit shy when sex is involved. Communication usually solves that problem, and not only enhances your intimate time, but will make everyday life in general much smoother! Remember: foreplay begins each day when you wake up, and your actions during the day can play a large part in how gratifying your next sexual experience will be.
This article was contributed by LoveRat, one of our female readers.
Posted by LoveRat
Sunday, January 14th, 2007