Four Contributing Factors of Vaginal Orgasm

According to the results of a study^† published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, consistency of vaginal orgasm is determined by four key factors:

1. Nature of early sex education.
2. Level of concentration during sex.
3. Duration of sexual intercourse.
4. The length of the penis.

Sex Education

As it turns out, the specifics of a woman's early sexual education largely determine how predisposed she is to achieving vaginal orgasm. If during adolescent years she learns to associate sex with the stimulation of her vagina, then later on in life she'll be more likely to reach orgasm through penile-vaginal intercourse (PVI).

Although this may at first seem to be of arbitrary importance, the fact is that many women experience orgasm through a variety of means. Unlike men who for the most part associate sexual pleasure with the penis, women are often aroused through the stimulation of several different parts of the body including, but not limited to, the vagina, clitoris, breasts (nipples in particular) and the anal opening.

This observation becomes significant when measured against prevailing ideologies that tend to focus on, and in many cases favor, the practice of ancillary techniques of stimulation, i.e. foreplay. While the true importance of foreplay in achieving orgasm remains controversial, there is no doubt that the psychological associations built early in life directly influence the adult sexual experience.

Level of Concentration

Along with above mentioned aspect of sexual education, the degree to which a woman concentrates on vaginal stimulation during intercourse also directly influences the likelihood of orgasm. If she largely associates pleasure with direct stimulation of her vagina and makes that the focal point of the experience then her chances of reaching climax increase dramatically.

The Duration of Intercourse

Simply put, the longer that sex lasts the more likely a woman is to achieve orgasm. This by itself is hardly ground-breaking news since it's common knowledge that most women have greater sexual stimulation requirements than men. Obviously each woman is different and has her own unique preferences.

Penis Length

This final factor is perhaps the one most commonly ignored (shunned?) by mainstream sexual doctrine. The size of a man's penis does in fact directly correlate with the amount of pleasure a woman experiences. While most clinical studies to date will systematically downplay the importance of penis size, the truth of the matter is that size counts. A large penis will stimulate a greater vaginal area and consequently improve the odds of reaching orgasm.

In addition to the actual physical characteristics of the penis, it is also thought that visual appearance itself may play a significant role in influencing levels of sexual arousal. The sight of a larger than average penis may very well activate a psychological response creating an environment in which woman are more susceptible to achieving climax.

Implications and Conclusions

This particular case study seems to reinforce many of the stereotypes associated with sex. Upbringing, attentiveness, performance and physiology all come together to shape a woman's sexual experience. The only puzzling part of the study is the conclusion (recommendation?) the researchers make:

"Focusing attention on penile–vaginal sensation supports vaginal orgasm and the myriad benefits thereof."

This statement conspicuously lacks mention of any of the other findings and addresses only one of the factors contributing to vaginal orgasm. As such it appears to remove from consideration the importance of the male side of the equation.

While I appreciate the research involved, I don't feel it necessary to be shielded from the simple truth – that female vaginal orgasm is as much dependent upon her partner as it is upon herself. We're adults, we can handle the fact that penis size and performance are vital components of the sexual experience. It isn't something to ignore, it's something to learn from and remedy.

^†Source: Vaginal orgasm is associated with vaginal (not clitoral) sex education, focusing mental attention on vaginal sensations, intercourse duration, and a preference for a longer penis. J Sex Med

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Objectives and Results

Recently published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, this study examined the extent of association between three particular criteria (duration of foreplay, duration of penile-vaginal intercourse, and age) and the likelihood or consistency of partnered orgasm. It had been previously assumed that the probability of experiencing an orgasm was more determined by the duration of foreplay then by the duration of sex itself.

The results of the study tell quite a different story:

"In univariate analyses, consistency of partnered orgasm was more associated with penile–vaginal intercourse duration than with foreplay duration (consistency also correlated negatively with age). In multivariate analysis, foreplay ceased to be a significant correlate of partnered orgasm consistency…"

In other words, women are more likely to achieve orgasm during an extended period of sex than they are from foreplay. This appears to contradict earlier beliefs about the effectiveness of foreplay.

"When both sexual activity categories are examined in tandem on a population level, women's likelihood or consistency of partnered orgasm is associated with penile–vaginal intercourse duration, but not with foreplay duration. In contrast to the assumptions of many sex therapists and educators, more attention should be given to improve the quality and duration of penile–vaginal intercourse rather than foreplay."

For a much more in depth analysis, read the complete study.

Understanding The Implications

Before we repudiate sex therapists, it should be noted that this was a limited study – it consisted of 2,360 Czech women and was based on their own estimates. Data was not obtained through a monitored experiment but rather compiled from a written survey. This being the case, the results are hardly indicative of the entire female population and certainly subject to unintentional errors in memory or otherwise.

The study does, however, give great insight into the many complexities of sex. I for one wholeheartedly believe that foreplay is an important (and perhaps necessary) part of improving a relationship. But it should not be perceived as the end-all of sexual gratification.

Speaking from personal experience, I have come to recognize an obvious distinction in the level of arousal my partner displays while being orally pleased and when having intercourse. It's usually evidenced by the certain amount of hair pulling necessary to get me to replace my tongue with my penis.

While most women probably enjoy foreplay as much as they do penis-vagina intercourse, I have little doubt that when it comes right down to personal satisfaction, the latter is preferred. It's hardwired into the genes. Foreplay is fantastic, but natural urges demand some amount of penile penetration.

The problem that arises is when sex simply does not last long enough. Sure foreplay helps, but the real solution is to make intercourse itself last longer. Luckily today there are several top-rated methods that not only meet this requirement, but also serve to enlarge and strengthen the penis as well.

In the end, improving stamina and sexual performance are just parts of one common goal: the enhancement of the entire sexual experience. Using foreplay to spice up your love life is certainly valuable, but it will never replace the act of sex itself.

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SENSE OF SIGHT

While this may seem to be the most obvious, studies have shown that it takes more than a physical attraction to fall in love with someone. Being "beautiful on the inside" plays a large role in complementing appearance. When two people are in a loving, committed relationship, the world around them melts. Flirting and body language have also been shown to make or break a first impression. When people are compatible, they often mirror each others body language, giving the message that there is a trust and a bond forming between them. These actions are often very subtle, but powerful.

SENSE OF SMELL

We have all seen commercials for those body sprays, where women shed their clothes on contact with anyone wearing them, but how real is this? According to recent studies, those ads are not too far off. 3 men were subject of the study: one man was doused with an artificial pheromone, the second man wore aftershave, and the third man had just had a vigorous workout and was sweaty. A blindfolded woman smelled all three and which did she prefer? Aftershave guy won, hands down.

SENSE OF SOUND

Your tone and the inflection of your voice makes up 38% of what people think of you. Going basically hand in hand with appearance, a pleasant voice has been known to make someone appear more attractive. This is translated the most through laughter, which is the greatest conveyance of positive feelings toward someone. Perhaps this is because we tend to laugh at even the most mundane subjects when we are stimulated by the presence of another. Using sound can also be a major sensual turn on for women when you gently whisper in her ear, especially while making love.

SENSE OF TASTE

Why is kissing so erotic? This is where the sense of taste comes in. Kissing is one way of tasting the pheromones of your lover, telling you whether or not you are sexually compatible. Enjoying the same types of foods is very arousing. And as a fantastic side benefit, food, especially fruit, can affect the flavor of semen, enhancing oral sex for both of you! Other foods are known to be aphrodisiacs, such as raw oysters, chocolate, asparagus, and bananas, and can be consumed in anticipation of an amazing night of passion!

SENSE OF TOUCH

Ever play footsies? If you tried that with a stranger, they would probably be annoyed. But with your significant other? Foreplay! Gentle touches, brushing up against each other, are all signs of desire. Unlike the other four senses, which are localized, your sense of touch is all over your body. When sensitive areas are touched, a message is sent to your brain usually leading to some sort of reaction. The most sensitive areas of the body are the neck, hands, lips, face, tongue, fingertips and feet. Exploring each other's bodies may also uncover other hot spots which will become a sexual secret that the two of you can share.

When you are initially attracted to someone, the five senses kick into gear and you begin the journey of getting closer to one another as your relationship develops. No doubt, incorporating the awareness that these senses bring will lead to a more satisfying sex life as well!

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Foreplay is not only an excellent way to enhance your sexual experience, but it will also help you to gain new understanding of your lover, drawing you closer as a couple. Since we all know the basics of foreplay, I thought that I would explore some more erotic ideas for you to experiment with.

Be a Tease!

Explore her body but do not go near her vagina for at least 5 to 10 minutes. Anticipation is a powerful turn-on, and the object here is to drive her insane with passion! Work your way around her body – her breasts, her ears, her butt, kissing her passionately and teasing her with your tongue. Use the tip of your penis to touch her body, let her feel how bad you want her, but resist the urge to plunge inside of her until she begs you to.

The Magical Mystery Tour

The key here is to be UNPREDICTABLE. While we are usually eager to just rip our clothes off and get down to business, take your time peeling off all your clothes. Start with removing her socks – most women are extremely turned on by "shrimping" or toe sucking. Try a little nibbling and licking while massaging her foot gently.

If the thought of munching on her adorable, yet perhaps just a tad bit funky feet is not for you, try making it fun. Rub her feet with edible massage oils and lick that off. Or put some whipped cream on the tip of each toe and treat her like she is a delectable dessert. Trust me, it will drive her absolutely wild!

Try an oral sex alternative as you strip her down to her panties – go down on her while they are still on, moving them with your tongue for access and then eat away! Pull them off with your teeth when you have finished, and if you can stand it, go back to "the tease" and play a little bit more before you engage in love making.

Talk Dirty To Me

As I have mentioned in my earlier blog posts, the art of communication is important in the sexual act, and dirty talk certainly has it's place. You don't need a play by play, but an occasional "I can't wait to be inside you" or "cum for me baby" is extremely erotic. Feel free to use obscenities at this point also, express yourself and show your lover that you are comfortable and enjoying the experience.

Show and Tell

This is one of the most intimate acts of foreplay a couple can engage in. You let your partner into a very private place, not only stimulating each other, but drawing close as a sexual unit.

For women, use visual stimulation. Wear some sexy lingerie and give him a lap dance, then strip off your clothes and let him watch you masturbate. Take his finger and let him help you along, then suck his finger gently, tasting the erotic flavors he has brought out of you. Or he can just be a voyeur – look but don't touch is a very effective way to show your partner how to arouse you.

For men, show her a demonstration of how you like to masturbate, talk out loud, tell her what you are thinking about as you pleasure yourself. Take her hand and let her help you, and if this gets too intense where you feel you are going to cum, ask her where she would like you to cum – in her mouth, between her breasts, on her stomach, or you can just thrust your penis inside of her and explode.

Blindfolding

Sometimes the best way to heighten your senses is to render one useless. A blindfold can add a degree of intimacy and trust in your partner that other things cannot. Take turns experimenting with another form of sexual mystery that will open many doors of pleasure for both of you. With this technique you can implement different textures and surprise each other with new sensations. Use feathers – stroke your lover all over, behind the ears, over the chest/breast area, down the stomach then the inner thighs.

Use flavored oils and lotions to massage interesting places, exploring the body and finding new locations that bring your partner pleasure. Always be in tune to their breathing patterns and moans so you know that your lover is enjoying this type of play.

For men, try to use a warming lubricant as you rub your woman's clit then penetrate her so you can feel the benefit also. For woman, suck on an Altoid or two to cool your tongue, then lick your man's erect penis, being very careful how you use your minty tongue around the very sensitive head. Combining these techniques can be a sexual mind-blower!

Experimenting with one or more of these foreplay techniques is a great way to enhance your sex life. For you men that are looking for even more advanced instruction and information, I highly recommend you check out Sex Advice For Men. This site contains articles on everything from kissing and massage to finding erogenous zones and advanced oral sex practices. SAFM is a must visit site for all men looking to make sex more enjoyable and learn how to become better lovers!

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-Nan Fairbrother

Ok, so you've been dedicated to enhancing yourself and now have a nice piece of equipment that most men would envy. But now what? Are you are in a relationship that seems to be status quo? How do you ignite that fire of passion?? While we ladies do love a man with a generous package, it is not the only factor in determining whether or not we consider a man a great lover. Some simple, yet important actions should accompany any sexual activity with that special someone in your life.

We all know that the basis for sexual excitement begins in the brain… visual fantasies of pleasure can often be cultivated with a few unspoken words (yes, in the form of romantic-infused actions). Women have needs that often go beyond the art of lovemaking. I'm not talking flowers and chocolate (too cliche)… I'm talking about taking a genuine interest in her. Most of us girls (I'm speaking presumptuously for the often confusing female species) aren't interested in a lot of bells and whistles, just to know that we are loved and cared for by YOU! Something as effortless as a phone call during the day to say "hi… how's your day going?" does wonders later on! Send a text message to her cell phone when you know she's on her way home and tell her to drive safely… tell her how precious she is to you! A nice cup of tea in the morning, served in bed, speaks volumes. Music, for most humans, is an aphrodisiac. Yeah, I know, EMO is not for you, but she probably digs it… why not dive into the lyrics and maybe find something that will touch her heart!

Of course, everyone's needs are different, but for the most part, if you are in-tune to her and a good listener to boot, you should be able to pick up her often not-so-subtle clues. Women are naturally more expressive then men, however, we tend to be a bit shy when sex is involved. Communication usually solves that problem, and not only enhances your intimate time, but will make everyday life in general much smoother! Remember: foreplay begins each day when you wake up, and your actions during the day can play a large part in how gratifying your next sexual experience will be.

This article was contributed by LoveRat, one of our female readers.

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